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25 Apr

Is your glass half full or half empty ?

You must have seen that movie (Julia and Julia) about the woman who decided to cook a recipe every day for a year from Julia Child’s cook book ? When I think about she journey of discovery, ups and downs and twists and turns until she found her true passion and calling … inspirational stuff, really.

A friend of mine sent me an article about Anne Marie Scanlon who has done something similar but rather food, she has chosen “gratitude” as her year-long daily commitment. In the article, she talks about how she was a “self-confessed glass half-empty person” and how a looking for positive had an unexpected effect.

By my reckoning there is nothing to lose and everything to gain by posting one thing I am grateful for every day for a year.

So, watch out for it on my facebook page – Life Coach, Cape Town. Better still, like my Facebook page so that you can follow on a daily basis.

You are more than welcome to join me and add your post as well. If you are not keen to commit for a whole year, then try for a week, two weeks, 30 days and see what shifts for you.

ready, steady … post !

26 Mar

Pete's Weekly : Self Employed vs Business Owner?

Huh ? That’s a weird title for an article ! Aren’t they the same thing ? Well, that’s what I thought when I started reading Pete’s offering on this question.

As a read the article, I was reminded of some of the points raised by Timothy Ferriss in his  ”4-hour work week”

One of the main differences Pete talks about between being self-employed and a business owner is that if you are self-employed, you can do it from the comfort of your bedroom, in your PJs. A “real” business is not portable.

Click here to read more, it will definitely be thought-provoking !

12 Mar

Pete's Weekly : Closing Time ?

This week, Pete looks at the difference between ”stopping” and “quitting”.
In the light of his recent posts on failure, I think it is an interesting distinction.

He says “Stopping is to quitting what braking is to crashing.”
How many times have we held onto something (or someone) until we have crashed and burnt ourselves badly, when, in fact, if we had braked earlier, we could have saved ourselves a huge amount of heart ache and pain and suffering. I agree, that sometimes we have to crash to learn, but once we have learnt, we are more aware of the signs and are able to apply the brake timeously while keeping our following distance in tact.

Click here to read the article

23 Feb

Petes Weekly : Failures Anonymous

Again, Peter has come up with a cracker ! He brings a new dimension to one of the biggest of all fears – failure.

This bit of the article, in particular, hit me between the eyes :
“Failure is the diploma you must gain before you can achieve any lasting success. Failure teaches you so much. More than anything it teaches you that success, like failure, is always temporary.”

How many of us tend to go barrelling down the rabbit hole when we have failed at something ? At the bottom of the rabbit hole, it feels like the end of the world rather than a temporary state. I like that Pete reminds us that this feeling is temporary and it will pass.

Click here to read the full article … Share it with others so that fewer people find themselves with Alice down the rabbit hole, but rather stepping through the looking glass into a new and exciting world.

14 Feb

Introducing : Pete's Weekly

I get a so many newsletters and emails and blogs in my mailbox everyday giving me tips and tricks on how to make my coaching practice AMAZING or how to make lots of money by sitting on a deck chair etc. Most of these find their way into my Trash bin … you know what I’m saying ?

Recently, I stumbled across a weekly blog post that did not find its way into my Trash box. I actually read it and have been reading it every week since … why this one ?

Peter Caruthers writes Pete’s Weekly and, for me, it’s REAL, honest and his message is simple and speaks to me. I can relate to his style and I like the human element that he brings to his posts.

I would like to share his posts with you, so each week, I will post the link to his latest post and, hopefully, you will find his insights, gentle wisdom and generosity of spirit as inspiring as I do.

18 Jan

What is a relationship ?

Are we in a relationship ? Are we not ?
What is a relationship ? What does the word actually mean ?

When listening to friends and colleagues talk, I have noticed that the term “relationship” is reserved for emotional or “love” associations between two people.

Turning to my trusty Oxford English Dictionary, I found that it defines “relationship” as a noun meaning :

  • the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected
  • the state of being connected by blood or marriage
  • the way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave towards each other
  • an emotional and sexual association between two people

Interesting that “sexual association” is considered a “relationship”. The quote “I did not have sexual relations with that woman !” comes to mind … not sure why :)

The two phrases that stand for me in the above definition are : “the state of being connected” and how people “regard and behave towards each other”.

For me, this allows a much broader interpretation and, in a strange way, more freedom.

I am rather pleased that being in a relationship is not for the “chosen few” who have found love … bird do it, bees do it, even educated fleas, do it.

How do you know when you are “in a relationship” … well, don’t look now, but you and I are “relating” right now. :)